Are you feeling overwhelmed at work? Chances are you’re extremely busy and end your day mentally exhausted and overwhelmed. Right when you need to be at your best for your family you are finding you have the least amount of energy, focus, and drive to invest in what you say is your highest priority. I get it. It’s extremely draining and life starts to be monotonous when you live in a less than healthy state of stress for extended periods of time.
What’s at the root of all of us being overwhelmed? The usual suspects, “them”, come to mind. The ones who don’t understand how busy you are and pile on more work, and those who ignore how you’re producing for the company despite being down a team member in your group. Being asked to produce above what is your capacity can certainly create unhealthy stress over time and it’s definitely frustrating when you believe you don’t have the respect of others who just see you as a resource to reduce their own load!
In my experience as a leadership coach, I have discovered these situations account for smaller than perceived amounts of the unhealthy stress we carry day in and day out. There is larger culprit and it hits really close to home. It’s you. It’s you and it’s me. It’s our inability to effectively lead ourselves that I have found generates the highest levels of unhealthy stress. It’s our low ability to lead ourselves that is the catalyst for depleted evenings at home, missed ballgames and dance recitals, and even our obesity. It’s me and it’s you and it’s all about leadership.
What are we missing? I believe our leadership ability determines our level of effectiveness. Leading ourselves is the first, and hardest, task we have when it comes to getting out from under the stress. Below are three ways you can increase your effectiveness and stop missing out at home. If you incorporate these into your routine on a daily basis, you will experience an internal relief and transform your relationships both inside and outside the office.
Maybe you’ve identified one way you’re currently creating an unhealthy level of stress in your life. If so, take a moment and write out exactly what you’ve learned about you and your ability to lead yourself. Next, decide what you need to change. What specifically are you going to do that you are not doing today in order to better lead yourself and create a more fulfilling day tomorrow? Finally, who is it that you can pass this blog to that will benefit, as you have, from gaining a new perspective on smoothing out the ride? Who can you add value to by opening up new possibilities that come from acting on what you’ve learned?
W. Shane McKenzie is The Leadership Transformation Coach. He helps leaders achieve greater effectiveness and become more fulfilled in their work by facilitating positive changes in their leadership behaviors. Join the Leadership Transformation Roundtable to get your copy of the questionnaire Shane uses to discover how close his intentions match the reality of those he leads.
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"I’ve worked with Shane for several years. He possesses a unique and highly effective combination of strategy, team leader and great communicator, a rare combination. He has a very strategic mind so he makes connections and sees disjointed paths where others do not. This allows him to both plot direction and execute the path to success. He’s truly committed to the greatness in others. He listens fully, asks the right questions at the right time, and gives us the space to both think and respond." - Linda Lindquist-Bishop, Strategic Facilitator, Speaker, Exit Planning for Business Owners, and World Champion Athlete
“Shane has the ability to frame a conversation in a way that brings a thought or concept full circle. He’s excellent at tying each session together, which helped me recognize a pattern of growth. He’s not a “teacher”; he’s a discussion facilitator…in other words these sessions aren’t built around Shane teaching concepts. This method of facilitation opens the door for personal application, which is critical to this development process. He asked questions that forced me to think with intention.”- G. Williams, Product Manager
W. Shane McKenzie is an Executive Coach and Mentor who specializes in helping successful leaders leave their job to own a business using proven strategies to minimize risk.